22. Colin McGilvray on What It Takes to Hit a Big Weight Loss Goal

Patrick McGilvray
My name is Patrick McGilvray, and I’m an experienced marathoner, ultra runner, running coach and mindset expert. I believe mindset is the most powerful and most underrated tool you have as a runner. So I’ve devoted my life to helping runners like you develop the mindset you need to fuel your inner fire and become the badass runner you were meant to be. This is The Running Mind podcast.

Well, hey there and welcome to episode number 22 of the running mind podcast. My name is Patrick McGilvray. I’m your host, Master Life Coach and weight loss coach for runners. And hey, if you’ve been dorking around with your weight your whole life, you need to stop doing that. You need to take action, you need to do something about it, your time has finally come.

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And doing it as a group is amazing. Everybody loves that aspect of this, I know you’re ready to do something. So let’s do it. Just go to innerfiretribe.com/stopovereating. And let’s go. Okay, recently, I had this amazing conversation with one of my best clients, my new favorite client, who just also happens to be my son, Colin.

So a little backstory, Colin has kind of struggled with his weight for most of his life. He’s always been “the big kid”. And I know it’s not always easy to be looked at that way, especially when you’re in like middle school in high school. So we talked about all that we talked about, like what it was like to go through middle school in high school as the bigger kid.

And then we talked about why he finally reached out to me for help with his weight. Now as his dad, I always knew that I could help him but I never like forced my ideas onto him. I was wanting to call him to decide for himself what he wanted to do. And when he was ready for help. If you want it from me, that’s fine. If not, that’s fine, too. But he finally did come to me a few months ago. And we started working together.

And I started doing the coaching with him exactly the same as I do with any other client. Almost exactly like he maybe got a little bit more of my time and attention. But he’s my son, so whatever. But this is a really fun interview, I just wanted to share, I wanted him to share his experiences that he’s had through this process, because he’s had some amazing results so far.

So we talk about the challenges he’s encountered throughout the journey so far, how he’s been able to get through those challenges. We talk about what it’s like to lose a significant amount of weight. Because this will challenge anyone, it was challenging for him. But he knew he could do it.

And he knew he could get through those tough moments. And he did, and he talks about that. And then he talks about how he’s come out the other side. And he’s just got these amazing results. He looks better, he feels better. He’s more confident. And honestly, as a parent, this is all we want for our kids.

You know, we just want them to feel good about themselves. And he does. It’s so awesome to see this. I’m really proud of myself too, for being able to be a part of this journey of his. I know you will be inspired by Colin’s story. And it’s a story that’s still in the making. Like he’s made amazing progress toward his goal.

He wants to lose 100 pounds. He’s not there yet. But he’s getting there. He’s super motivated and inspired to get there and I have no doubt he’s going to do it. He has no doubt he’s going to do it. Why? Because he has the right attitude about it. And this is the difference between people who succeed at something like this than people who don’t, you know, getting to some huge goal, whatever that goal is, is all about developing the right mindset. It’s all your mindset. Mindset is everything.

And he has the absolute right mindset to do this. And this is why I’m so passionate about helping people get the same kinds of results. Because when you’re armed with that, right mindset, there’s nothing you can do. You’re like unstoppable. You can totally train your brain to do whatever you want. Lose 100 pounds, no problem, bring it on. Okay, let’s do this. I want you to hear this interview with my son, Colin. He’s like my new favorite client.

By the way, I think you’re gonna really get a lot out of this. So here’s my interview with Colin McGilvray.

Okay, so today, I’ve got something very special for you guys. I’m actually having a conversation with one of my best weight loss clients. who just happens to be my son, Colin McGilvray. Colin, how are you?

Colin McGilvray
Great. Thank you.

Patrick McGilvray
Awesome. Thanks for coming on here. And having a conversation with me today. I just wanted to share your experience with people. I wanted people to hear your personal experience with kind of the work that we’ve been doing together, because you’ve had some pretty amazing results so far.

So we’re going to talk a little bit about your journey in the past. What’s it been like six, eight weeks now? Roughly?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, roughly.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, roughly, over the last two months, basically, of, of working on the mindset, the emotional piece, and then obviously, the physical piece of losing weight. So tell me like, just I know where you were, but like, for everybody else’s sake, like, let’s just share, like where you were when we started working together?

Colin McGilvray
Sure. So when we started working together, I was about 300 pounds. And I weighed in once we first started doing this, at 295. Really lethargic, basically no exercise. Very little energy. Really not in a good spot.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, so how, how was that for you? Like, you’re the reason you wanted me to help you is because of why like, why did you reach out to me for help?

Colin McGilvray
I reached out because I wanted to change. I wanted it to be different. Other people in my life kind of hinted that I needed to change. There’s a lot of people I know in my life who were as big as I was and had serious health problems. And so I know that if I kept going on that route, I was gonna have some serious problems.

Patrick McGilvray
And how has it been for you? Because you’ve always been like a bigger kid, you know what I mean? Like you were born a bigger kid, you know what I mean? And so and that’s fine. But you know, how was it growing up for you? Like as a, you know, middle schooler and a teenager in high school? Or was that challenging for you being like the bigger kid?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, so I played sports when I was growing up. And I always knew I was the biggest kid. And I was a little slower than everybody else. I ran cross country, kind of, towards the slower side there as well. So I always knew I was bigger. It’s not something that was like hidden. I always realized it.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. So how did that make you feel, though?

Colin McGilvray
It didn’t make me feel really good at all, like, on the wrestling team I was probably one of the one of the biggest kids there. And, you know, I knew it. And I was really self conscious about it.

Patrick McGilvray
So when you like came to me and was like, Dad, I think I need some help with this. Like, what was your thought about that? Like, what was your thought of what you wanted to do? Like, what did you want from this?

Colin McGilvray
I want, ultimately a better body. I don’t want to worry about having health problems. I want to look better. I want to, I want to feel better, I want to have more energy, I want to sleep better. I want to be able to go out and exercise and be able to climb a few flights of stairs and not be out of breath.

Patrick McGilvray
Was that kind of challenging for you exercising and stuff like that?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, for sure. You know, you get in a routine where maybe you go to the gym for two weeks and it kind of falls off.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. And I would imagine that being overweight being, you know, roughly 100 pounds overweight right? Is probably challenging trying to get out there and exercise. And so you don’t feel like doing it because it’s so hard, which just kind of perpetuates the body image issues that you’re having. And the fact that you know, you just don’t feel good about yourself. Right?

Colin McGilvray
Definitely.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. All right, so we started working together. And how old are you now? Colin?

Colin McGilvray
I’m 21.

Patrick McGilvray
You’re so young, literally, and baby still. But Colin’s 21 and, you know, he’s gotten, you know, he’s, he got up to 300 pounds. And that’s, that was kind of a wake up call for him. Like he told me like, when I saw that number on the scale, like, what did that mean to you? When you saw that? Like, what did that feel like?

Colin McGilvray
Oh, I mean, the first time I was 300 pounds was like in high school, like, probably my junior year, and I fluctuated between like, 300-35, I’d go on a diet, get down to like the 270s. And then it would all come right back. So I mean, recently wasn’t the first time I’d seen that I’d gotten so used to seeing 300 pounds. And I would purposely not weigh myself, because I knew it was going to be well over 300 pounds.

Patrick McGilvray
Wow. And so like you were ready to finally do something about that. Right?

Colin McGilvray
Absolutely.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, that’s cool. So you and I kind of got on this plan, I started coaching you, we started talking about, you know, what you’re going to eat, what you’re not going to eat. And then we worked on some other things, like your mindset and stuff like that, and we’ll talk about that. And then, uh, but you know, walk me through what it was like, at the very beginning, like, how was the beginning of this program? Like when you and I started doing this, and I really, the biggest thing was like, I was like, you got to stop eating sugar and flour. Like, we got to get rid of the refined carbohydrates and the sugar. And so we eliminated that first, like, what was that like?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, honestly, when we first started it within the first few days, I was like, wow, what did I get myself into? This is difficult. It started out pretty, pretty rough, because I would drink a lot of Mountain Dew every day. Yeah, like 52 ounces of Mountain Dew, which is a lot. And so tons of fast food, fried chicken, fried anything, McDonald’s. And so it was almost daily. So is a big, huge lifestyle adjustment. For sure.

Patrick McGilvray
How did you feel though, when you stopped eating sugar?

Colin McGilvray
I felt really good. I noticed that probably two days.

Patrick McGilvray
Well, first, though, at first, how would you feel first?

Colin McGilvray
Okay. So, you know, this first few days without eating sugar, it was a little rough. Because you know, you really have that sugar craving, your body really wants it, you really want that mountain dew or that candy. But like I said, probably a few days afterwards. It’s just, I just didn’t have those cravings anymore.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, so it only took a few days. That’s cool. Yeah, so when you eliminate sugar, like you will kind of go through a withdrawal phase. And, and it’s short, you know, if you do it the right way. And you get rid of the refined carbs and the sugar, just like 100% like eliminate it, it will kind of be terrible, you will feel terrible for a couple of days, which I think you experienced.

And you and I talked about that. But then it goes away and then it gets better. So after that, like after you got over that initial thing, we just started getting you on an eating protocol, which just means like, a way of eating that serves you like it’s a way of eating food that fuels your body.

You know, so when we talk about a protocol, it’s not a diet, it’s not like you have to eat these certain five things or whatever. You get to choose what you want to eat. But it’s a high fat, low carb diet, you know what I mean? Like, it’s just, we just get rid of the refined sugar and carbs.

And when we do that, it gives your body a chance to, you know, rebalance the hormones. We’ve got to bring those insulin levels down, which you did, you know, when the insulin levels come down, then your hormones get balanced out so you don’t feel as hungry. When you do eat, you feel more full.

And when you’re eating a lot of processed food and sugar those things are all out of whack. So you’re like always hungry all the time. You know. So tell me about your experience with the eating protocol in general. Like, how’s that been going for you? And yeah, how’s it going today for you?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, the eating protocol’s great. I think it really helps that some of my favorite foods are high in fat. Like I really enjoy eating steak, and I can eat that a lot. And it’s nice to be able to find something in your protocol that you do enjoy eating. So it’s been really good so far. Like I said, at the very beginning, kind of settling into it took a little bit of adjustment for sure.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, cool. Um, so you are eating food that you enjoy?

Colin McGilvray
100%.

Patrick McGilvray
Do you feel hungry all the time?

Colin McGilvray
I do not feel hungry all the time.

Patrick McGilvray
So that’s, that’s good. That’s one of the benefits of eating a higher fat diet. So if you’re eating good, good fats, then it will fill you up, and you shouldn’t be as hungry. So then, one of the things I wanted to talk about, which is, you know, one of my areas of expertise, and one of the things that you and I have talked extensively about, which is kind of the mindset piece, because there, there have been times that have come up where you’ve been challenged by some of the things. So give me an example of a challenge for you during this whole mental weight loss process.

Colin McGilvray
So we have a party at work, and there’s a bunch of food that’s not in the protocol. Tons of sugar, flour, fried food, just big tables of candy and Cheetos. Doritos. So, you know, I just, I had the right mindset about it, like we’ve, like we’ve talked about before.

Patrick McGilvray
Well was that mindset like? So what is it that gets you to not have to like, feel like you’re deprived or something?

Colin McGilvray
Sure. So that mindset really becomes thinking about myself at my ideal weight. And thinking about what I’m going to look like, how I’m going to feel, the exercise I’m able to do, and knowing that, you know, if I eat that bag of Cheetos, that’s not helping me get there. So why would I really want to be eating something that’s ultimately going to hurt me?

Patrick McGilvray
Right? So what is your ideal weight? What do you want to get down to?

Colin McGilvray
I want to get down to 180 pounds.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, cool. I think you can do that. For sure. So tell me more about that ideal version of yourself that like future Colin like, what does that look like for you?

Colin McGilvray
I’d like to be you know, around 180 pounds, whatever my healthy weight is going to be, I want to have, you know, I want to be in shape, you know, I want to have some muscle muscle definition, I want to be able to have a lot of endurance, do a lot of running.

Patrick McGilvray
And what will that do for you? Like, let’s say you get to 185 pounds, 180 pounds, you’ve built some muscle you can like go out and run five miles at a time or whatever it is you want to do? Like, what does that mean for you?

Colin McGilvray
For me, all the issues we talked about earlier, like heart disease, being extremely overweight, and the possibility of diabetes. I won’t have those worries anymore. And just kind of proves to myself that, you know, I could do anything I really set my mind to. And it would give me a lot of empowerment for other other aspects of my life.

Patrick McGilvray
That’s awesome. So having that vision of yourself, is that what kind of helps you get through some of these challenging situations? Like that situation described at work, like does it help to like know that you know, who you want to be in your future is more important than like this bag of Doritos?

Colin McGilvray
It does. It really, it really helps because I think about, you know what I’m gonna look like. And I don’t really have that craving anymore, because I’m just kind of over it. I don’t need that. It’s at my ideal weight. I’m not going to be eating that. And it’s not going to help me get there. So why would I really want to hurt myself?

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. So looking through this whole process of like, you know, losing weight, so how many pounds would be lost so far? Let’s go. Let’s talk about that.

Colin McGilvray
So right now. I’m at 257. So over 37 pounds so far.

Patrick McGilvray
Dang. That’s awesome.

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, it feels really good.

Patrick McGilvray
That is awesome. Because you’d lost a few pounds before you and I started like doing this together. But really the weight just has been dropping off like crazy over the last five or six weeks for sure. Which is awesome. But what’s been like the hardest part of all of this for you?

Colin McGilvray
The hardest part is seeing a lot of other people eating the food I used to eat. So you know people coming in with fast food, or pizza, or junk food at work sitting next to me eating it. That was really hard at first. And that’s the hardest part.

Patrick McGilvray
Has that gotten better?

Colin McGilvray
It’s gotten a lot better, just with the you know, the mindset that we’ve talked about and and thinking about, you know, 180lb Colin and how that’s not going to help get me there. And I don’t need to eat that food.

Patrick McGilvray
Okay, when you think about that future version of yourself, do you have like some feelings associated with that some like emotions that that kind of come up when you think about that?

Colin McGilvray
I do. Yeah, I really want to get to that point. And I think I’m willing to put in whatever amount of work it takes to get there.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, because it’s not easy sometimes. Right? I mean, there can be challenges, you know, you get fast food shoved in your face at work. There’s cupcakes and Doritos, and all this stuff. And yeah. You’re doing great, though. Really proud of you. Colin has been an ideal client, you know, like you really have like, you’ve been doing everything that I’ve told you to do. You know, and honestly, some of this has been hard, right?

Colin McGilvray
It’s been really hard. Not gonna lie. Yeah, there are times where it is very difficult.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, but you get through it.

Colin McGilvray
Definitely. And there’s also times where it feels amazing to know that like, you know, wow, I’ve lost 37 pounds, I look visibly different. I’ve had to buy new clothes. Like, I’m doing this, it feels really good.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, and I tell my clients this all the time, like, it’s not easy. Like, there will be challenges, you will be challenged mentally, you will be challenged physically, you will be challenged emotionally. But I help you get through all that stuff. That’s the beautiful thing about having a coach there to help you get through stuff like this.

Because honestly, if like, losing 100 pounds was easy, everybody would just do it, it wouldn’t be a problem there wouldn’t need, we wouldn’t need any help at all, it would just be like, just eat this and you’re fine, you know, but we’ve been conditioned and trained our whole lives to eat food that just creates this, this unnatural craving inside of us.

And it creates this emotional connection to food. You know, so many of us use food as an escape from our lives as an escape from reality, because it feels good, feels good to eat the fried chicken, and eat the Snickers and eat the Doritos, you know, and so why should we deal with our emotions and our thoughts and whatever, when we can just eat instead?

You know, and one of the things that you and I have talked about is like, how to stop eating, because you don’t want to feel a certain feeling. You know, so you’ve learned how to kind of process some of those emotions and stuff.

And as a 20 year old, 21 year old, I think that’s pretty, pretty awesome, that you’ve been able to do that you know that you have learned how to manage your mind. Right? And how to process emotions, so you don’t have to eat over them.

Colin McGilvray
Definitely.

Patrick McGilvray
And you’ve also learned that you can have a fulfilling life without having to just eat food or like food doesn’t equal a good life. Right?

Colin McGilvray
Exactly. And the world doesn’t revolve around what I’m going to eat next.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, so you were talking about going on vacation soon. And whenever you go on vacation, you have a lot of memories about like food with that. Yeah. So what are you going to do now? So you’re going on vacation soon? What are you going to do differently?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, so a lot of it is, you know, we go on vacation in the same spot, there’s all these restaurants we always go to, and really not a whole lot of what they have is, you know, on protocol. And it’s a lot of just realizing that the vacation is going to be just as fun if you don’t eat that food.

What I put into my body does not determine whether or not I have a good vacation. It’s people I’m with, the experiences I have, you know, making memories. It has nothing to do with the food. And you know, if you’re, if you’re motivated enough, if you really care enough, you’ll figure out a way to make that work and not make excuses. Like, I’m going to go off protocol, just because I’m in a situation where it’s harder to stay on protocol.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, so that you may be challenged on that vacation, but there’s no reason for you to change what you’re doing right. Here’s the thing, when we use food, food as an escape or as food as a way to feel good. We lose the beautiful moments that we have with our family and with our loved ones with our friends, you know, because we’re not really fully present to be with them. We’re not fully present for the experience.

You know, I used to have the same feeling about when I was drinking, you know, I used to drink. And, and I thought there’s no way I can have fun out with people without drinking. Like if alcohol isn’t involved, why bother? You know.

And, and I’ve learned that my life is so much better without alcohol. And my life is so much better in the same way without those foods that I used to eat as an escape because I thought that to eat the certain food or drink, the certain thing meant I was having fun. But it didn’t at all, it meant that I thought I was having fun.

It felt good for a moment. But then I had the terrible hangover, and I was gaining weight. And I felt bad about myself. And I was lethargic, like, there were all these negative side effects, these negative consequences of using food and using alcohol as an escape from my life as a buffer from my real life, you know.

And so for you, one of the things we’ve talked about, and you’ve sort of embraced is like, I’m going to go on vacation, I’m going to spend time with my family, and my friends, and we’re going to hang out and talk and I’m going to be there for the experience of being with them. And you always find something to eat at these restaurants, you know, I mean, a big piece of fish, eat a steak, whatever you want to do.

Like, there’s lots of good options, you know, you can definitely find the food that works for you. Or you can just, you know, eat what feels good and feels authentic for you, you know, and maintain that integrity that you have with yourself, because you’ve built up over these last couple of months, Colin, you’ve built up a lot of integrity with yourself, you know, like you’re not cheating on your protocol, you’re not eating what you’re not supposed to.

And when you do that, and you continue to reward yourself, you reward your brain by not eating and giving in to those urges and cravings that you used to have for like Mountain Dew or fried chicken or whatever. When you continually do that you build up this trust in yourself and this confidence in yourself. And it’s I can see it in you like you’ve changed, you know, which has been awesome to see, you know. So that’s cool.

Like, obviously, Colin is, you know, my son. And so I’ve been working with him a lot like he and I have had a lot of long conversations about this stuff. And he’s made a lot of progress in a short amount of time. But honestly, anybody I work with can see the same kinds of results, it just depends on how much work they want to put into it.

You know, Colin just happens to be really committed to this, you know what I mean? He has this vision for himself that he has created that is like, it’s really powerful. And he thinks about that, you know, like when he’s challenged with the food at work, like he’s like, that person that I want to be in the future is much more important to me than this bag of Doritos right here. Like, that’s cool. That’s really cool, Colin. So what has been like the most surprising thing out of all of this work that we’ve done together, like, what surprised you the most so far?

Colin McGilvray
What surprised me the most is how the coaching that we’ve talked about and we’ve done, the coaching model, essentially, changing your your thoughts that you have about things, has helped me in so much more than just weight loss, relationships with other people, with my family, with co-workers, or just situations that pop up in my life. I mean, it’s helped me everywhere.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, like you’ve had some experiences, you work in customer support. And you’ve you know, I’ve had some, like angry customers, you know, I’m sure they call and like, you know, want to yell at you, you know, and just take out their frustration. And you’ve learned how to separate, like, the circumstance of this angry customer from what it means to you, like, it doesn’t mean anything about you, you know, and you don’t have to take that personally and you don’t have to react to that, you know, you can respond in a very mature and very in a way that’s like, very resourceful in a way that’s that’s very helpful for them and for you, you know.

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, just realizing, you know, what they’re saying doesn’t mean anything about me. It’s just a fact. And what they’re saying is what they’re saying. I’m gonna choose to think the thoughts that I want to think about it.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, they’re just words. Oh, this person said some words. You know, you can choose what that means to you. You can choose that means like, you don’t know what you’re doing. Or, you know, you know, they’re mad at you or something like that. But you can also choose that it doesn’t mean anything doesn’t mean anything about you. So that’s cool. All right. Any other thoughts about this process so far?

Colin McGilvray
Yes. So I’ve tried several, like weight loss programs before. And none of them prepare you for how hard this is going to be mentally. None of them tell you that, you know, you’re going to be around people who are eating this fast food that you are not going to eat. And it’s never prepared you for that. It’s never really gone into the coaching side of it. And I think that’s what’s really different about this. And this is why I’ve been able to get this far with it.

Patrick McGilvray
Awesome. Yeah, I mean, that’s one of the things that I definitely bring to the table with my clients. And I tell them this all the time, it’s like, you know what, it will be hard, it will be challenging, you know, changing your diet, like changing what you’re eating, and stop using food as an escape from your life stop using food to feel better, is going to be challenging.

But I got you through that, like, that’s my forte is like, you know, working on the mindset piece with people and helping them process the emotional piece so that they can get through this. And diets just don’t do that. They’re like, here’s what you eat, or don’t eat, and good luck, you’re on your own, you know, they don’t talk to you about, okay, what happens when it gets really hard? Like, what am I supposed to do?

Or I’m having this situation, what do I do about this? Or I have this thing coming up at work or this vacation. Like, how do I get through that? And that’s one of the beautiful things about having a coach working with you is like, you get answers to all of your questions. You get to help working through your particular situation, you get somebody there, walking you through every step of the way of this process, through the hard stuff. Has it gotten easier, like are things easier now?

Colin McGilvray
Sure, like I was gonna say earlier a ton about it being really hard. And you know, it isn’t the beginning of getting off a sugar craving and you kind of build a you obtain a skill set that you have to help you with all these different, all these different situations. So you’ve essentially given me that skill set to get through all of this, and it gets a lot easier as you go. There’s still hard moments and things come up for sure. But you get through it, and it just gets easier and easier.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, and like I said, at the beginning, this has only been we’ve only been working together for like eight weeks, you know, honestly, the first five or six weeks are probably the hardest part, like just like you got to get through that initial, you got to get off the sugar and get off, get off the sugar withdrawals, because that’s definitely a mental and a physical issue that we gotta get over.

So we did that pretty quickly. But then we learn the mental piece. And that takes a few weeks to like, kind of work through that stuff. But once you get through those, like the first six weeks, then you’re pretty well situated, right? Like, you know, the last couple of weeks, we haven’t talked too much. And you’ve been doing really well. And you keep losing weight, and you’re sticking to your protocol, which is awesome.

Like you’re doing such a great job. I wish everybody was like, honestly, because people they’re like, oh, I want to change, I want to lose weight. And then I’m like, cool, here’s what we’re gonna do. And they’re like, whoa, I don’t want to do anything different. You know, like, I don’t want to like be uncomfortable at all. And like, you gotta get uncomfortable, right? Like, has that?

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, I definitely had a fear of being uncomfortable. Yeah, sure. But like you’ve said before, I must embrace the suck.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah, that’s a phrase we use in Ultra running a lot or in triathlon is like, embrace the suck, because it will suck at times. But just know that so. So it’s been uncomfortable. You got through it, and now you’re reaping the rewards of that right?

Colin McGilvray
Absolutely.

Patrick McGilvray
Do you feel better?

Colin McGilvray
I feel so much better.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. And do you still have that like strong vision of future Colin? And is that still the thing that’s kind of like your north star that keeps you pointed forward?

Colin McGilvray
I do. Definitely. And, you know, I started out with that vision, and it’s only gotten stronger as we’ve done this. As I get closer, and that number between 2- or 300 and 180 becomes smaller and smaller. That vision only becomes stronger.

Patrick McGilvray
When’s the last time we were in the 250s?

Colin McGilvray
I don’t remember it was probably junior high. Yeah.

Patrick McGilvray
That’s crazy.

Colin McGilvray
It is.

Patrick McGilvray
That’s awesome. Well, here’s what I want for you. I mean, I love you because you’re my son and I want obviously all the best things in the world for you. But I want you to feel good about yourself. And I think it’s tough growing up as a kid, that’s the bigger kid in the class, you know, I mean, you’re tall too, you’re like six, three, right?

Colin McGilvray
6’2.

Patrick McGilvray
So like 6’2, okay, so you’re like tall, and then the big kid. Like, I think that’s tough. And there’s a lot of stuff that goes on, you know, around that, you know, there may be teasing, there may be bullying, there may be, you know, just some like, passive aggressive stuff, talking behind your back or whatever.

So, I mean, I know that that can be challenging. And, and I know that, you know, what I want for you is that I want you to feel good about yourself and feel confident, I want you to feel like you can do anything, because you can, I have so much faith in you. And I have so much confidence in you.

And I’m seeing you building up that self confidence in yourself. And it’s amazing to watch. And the more you do this, the more you stick with what you’re doing, the more that builds, the more that self confidence builds, the more that relationship with yourself, gets stronger, and gets better and more powerful.

You know, you’re learning very quickly, too, by the way, but you’re learning how to like, be a more powerful person and to like, step into that person that you really want to be. Because we all have that within us. We all have that ability within us to be who we want to be. And you’re starting to see that. And it’s awesome.

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, I definitely look at challenges a lot different already. Now.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. So you probably see challenges as more of like, an opportunity for you to grow.

Colin McGilvray
Exactly. And I started to feel, you know, a lot of things I thought I could never do, are suddenly possible.

Patrick McGilvray
Awesome. Anything is possible.

Colin McGilvray
It is.

Patrick McGilvray
Well, you’re doing great. We’re going to check in with you later in a couple of months and see how things are going. My prediction is that you should get your goal weight here in a few months, you know, if you’re kind of on this steady decline, so average weight loss in a program like this is anywhere between like one to seven pounds a week, you know, I mean, you’ve been in about in the middle about five pounds a week, I guess.

Colin McGilvray
Yeah, something like that. And it fluctuates, too, you know, some weeks you lose a little less than others. Some days you get on the scale, and you notice a couple pound difference.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. And sometimes it goes up and you’re like, what the heck is going on here? But then we’ve learned and one of the things I talk about is like not to be afraid of the scale. It’s just data. You know, I mean, it’s just like a number. It’s a number. This, you know, it’s a number that means how much your bones and your skin weigh and the water inside your body, you know.

Colin McGilvray
Exactly and ultimately still have that downward trend. Yeah.

Patrick McGilvray
Yeah. And that’s what we’re always looking for. We want it to keep going down for sure. So while you’re doing great, I’m really proud of you. And we’re going to check back in like I said, and a couple of months and see how you’re progressing. But you’re one of my favorite clients. You’ve been like one of the best coaching clients I’ve had. So keep up the good work Colin, and we’ll be checking in with you soon. Okay?

Colin McGilvray
Thank you very much. I enjoyed it.

Patrick McGilvray
Oh my gosh, I love that kid so much. He is so awesome. I’m so happy for him too, as a parent. I’m like, so proud of him and so happy for him. And I’m proud of his progress. And I’m proud of the fact that he’s continuing to make progress and continuing on this journey.

And I want to keep you guys posted. So you know, we’ll definitely share more of his journey with you as we progress along here. I think a couple more interviews with Colin would be awesome. And then just a quick reminder here. The next weight loss masterclass starts June 1, only about 10 people can get in this class.

So if you want to get in, you have to enroll now, innerfiretribe.com/stopovereating and get signed up, get your body ready for the summer, become that lean running machine that you know you can be innerfiretribe.com/stopovereating and enroll. Alright, that’s all I got for you today. Thank you so much for listening. I appreciate it so much. And as always, I have lots and lots of love for each and every one of you, my friends, and I’ll talk to you soon.

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